This past week I attended a funeral of one of the most faithful and inspiring women I had the pleasure of growing up with in church. As I was preparing food for the family, the song “Church (take me back)” by Cochren & Co came on. If you are not familiar with it, the chorus says “take me back to place that feels like home, to the people I can depend on, to the faith that is in my bones….”
Have you ever compared yourself to any of the women in the Bible? Did you know 93 women were recorded for their spoken words and 49 of those women were named. So, if we finger through the Bible those numbers do not seem like that many compared to what we see women doing in today’s world. Keep in mind the majority of the women that were named were the women who showed some type of prominence and often stepped out of the ordinary according to Hebrew times.
Thanking the women who played a role in your life
May 12th is Mother’s Day and this day tends to draw me out of the ordinary circle of just celebrating only birth mothers. I find myself thinking of all the women who have played a role in my life and who have been a huge part in shaping me into the woman I am today. “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
Proverbs 31:28-29 says “Her children arise and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her. Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” What noble things have the women in your life done for you, or what noble things have you done for others? I think we, as women, get so caught up in our “checklists” that we lose track of time and miss out on opportunities to bless others. Or perhaps you tend to get wrapped up in the fact you do not get the praise you deserve, but let’s not let that interrupt your praise for others.
Women need to be encouraged and reminded of how wonderful they are. Do me a favor, remind one woman in your life today how wonderful she is.
The women we need in our corner
How about the Mary Magdalene’s of our lives? The women that often do not get the recognition they deserve because they are just always there. Those are the women that have been through the good, bad, and ugly with you. The women that have stuck by your side perhaps during their own conflictions, but never muttered a word. Those are the women we need in our corner!
Have you found yourself in a sticky situation or maybe just on the verge of making a bad decision? Did you have a Miriam who saved you from the consequences? Remember Miriam was Moses’ older sister who helped save him after being left in a basket by his mother to protect him from being killed. Did you tell your Miriam how thankful you were that she took the time to save you from the “what if”?
“She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” Proverbs 31:25-26
Surround yourself with the Hannah’s who remain faithful and believe in YOU. Women need to be believed in, told they are brave, smart, and capable of accomplishing any dream that they have.
Celebrate all of the women who got your back
This Mother’s Day, I encourage you to celebrate ALL women who have birthed you, inspired you, loved you, supported you, encouraged you, believed in you, protected you, was patient with you, prayed for you, and last but not least always there for you. Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, who have her back.”
To the women reading this, “Uncover your dreams and your passions, and share them with the world; your ideas, your voice, but most importantly your presence, because you are a gift to the world.”
“Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. I thank my God every time I remember you.” Philippians 1:2-3
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Do you ever feel exhausted from giving all of yourself to a world that still doesn’t see you as enough? Society has a way of telling women who we should be. They say that unless we are doing more than the woman next to us, we are not doing enough.
I wonder, what is enough? Is being enough…
“Hi ma’am, how many will be dining tonight?” “Oh, umm, just one…just me”. Have you ever found yourself in that situation? Or perhaps you just did not even try going out to eat because you were embarrassed to be that party of one. I was that party of one…sadly, not so long ago.
Would you say that you have transparent relationships?
Transparent – easy to see through, understand, or recognize; without concealment; open; frank; candid
Transparency is letting your guard completely down, humbling yourself and getting honest with others, yourself and most importantly, God.
One of the most beautiful trees of God’s creation that I have ever seen is The Weeping Willow. It looks so serene, peaceful and wise but it also has a haunting glow of sorrow. It reminds me of many elderly women that I cared for when I worked in nursing homes years ago.
The Weeping Willow
They have been through The Great Depression, The Civil Rights Movement and sent their husbands, brothers
Growing Solid Roots
They have witnessed and survived tragedy but through their journey, they have grown solid roots that sprout trunks and branches that sprout beautiful and
Today, many women use the term “strong” so loosely. But we women of today are just apple trees compared to these weeping willows. Yes, we have all had our share of trials and tribulations but we are still growing in wisdom, knowledge
True Definition Of Strength
These willows have been through the worst of times, yet survived and through their trials, they maintained eloquence, class and an attitude of gratitude, never whining and never complaining. They taught us that in the midst of their storm, fall to your
When they spoke, their words poured out wise instruction, encouragement and fair warning.
They despised lies, gossip, back-biting and foul language because they understood that life and death were in the power of the tongue and if you didn’t tame it, you got a switch to your back-side and a bar of soap in your mouth. You sat down at the dinner table saying your grace, and asking to be excused before you got up. School was a privilege not a burden and work came before fun.
The Anchors In Our Lives
They are the anchors in our lives, a glimpse of the flickering star of hope that we still have a chance to get it right by modeling them in their fight for faith, hope and the restoration of the family unit. They are the true definition of strength.
Let us not forget
“For with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the more grief.” Ecclesiastes 1:18
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A rollercoaster of emotions
I remember when I made the decision to end a toxic relationship. It was just weeks before the wedding. I was also in the midst of a new and growing relationship with God. I was an emotional wreck, riding on a rollercoaster of emotions. One minute I felt liberated, like I was set free from bondage. The next, I felt afraid and vulnerable, like I just jumped out of a boat into the ocean with no life-jacket. I decided that I would try new ways to channel my energy. I started a fitness bootcamp, took tennis lessons, bought books on faith and healing and my friend and I decided we would start taking classes on salsa dancing.
We started classes every Monday after work. The dance studio was downtown Indianapolis and sat right above a Mexican restaurant. We would go to dance class and then after, would head downstairs to have dinner. When other people were dreading Mondays, we would look forward to them. What I didn’t expect is the breakthrough that I would experience in my spiritual walk during my classes.
In partner dancing, we began learning twists, turns
“Latin dancing is like a beautiful painting. The woman is the picture and the man is the frame. His support highlights and enhances her beauty.”
I realized at that point that my dancing style was a physical manifestation of my core issues in relationships. I was always trying to lead and as a result, I attracted men who were followers.
Dancing in unison
As the classes progressed, I learned more and more about trust, submission and letting go of the need to be in control. I was also recognizing when others had trouble with their role. We switched dance partners several times each class and I often had a partner that had an issue with leading as much as I had an issue with following. They would wait on me to lead instead of taking the lead. When I would switch my partner to a man that was strong in leading, I would let out a sigh with relief because my role was much easier when I had a stronger partner. What a concept.
Marriage and relationships are much like a dance. Dancing without assuming your role makes the entire performance sloppy and fall apart. It interrupts the harmony, balance and cohesion of the pair. But when you dance in unison, it is like the melody of a bird’s song after being released from a cage.
As a result of these classes, the lessons that I learned poured over to other areas in my life. I started recognizing when I was attempting to revert back to the “control freak” and also recognized a lack of leadership in others. God is always speaking to us and through us. Understanding that we were made in His image, it makes sense that we become more like Him when we receive and absorb His wisdom through beautiful gifts such as art, dance, music and writing.
Please take a listen to this beautiful song about following the leadership of Christ and letting go of the need to fight against it by Steffany Gretzinger, called “We Dance”
“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10
“Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman.” 1 Corinthians 11:11
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“I can’t believe it is already 2019!
I just came home from a visit to my in-laws and my mother in law said the same, “I can’t believe it is already 2019! I remember that it was turning 2000, the millennium year, what a panic did that cause and now it is already 19 years later” Even I remember when it became the year 2000, I’m really getting older, it is a fact….
A fresh start
We are standing at the beginning of a new year, do you have specific plans for this year? Special events coming up? Things to look forward to? A new year often gives us the feeling of a new start, a time of starting over or making a fresh start. A lot of people make new years resolutions. Maybe you yourself also have some.
When it comes to God and my personal relationship with Him, I often make new resolutions. I want to spend more time in prayer, read more in His Word, I want to have more quality time with Him etc. The thing is, this is a yearly returning (sometimes weekly returning) resolution. Maybe this is recognizable for you? Where does this resolution comes from?
And this leads to feeling guilty
Resolutions are things we want to approve, do more or less, want to be better at, things we weren’t satisfied about when we look at the past year. What makes a lot of us unsatisfied about our relationship with God? We never think it was enough. There are days we pray 5 minutes, there are days we pray 10 minutes, but sometimes there is a day that we don’t take the time to pray at all, or read in His word. And this leads to feeling guilty. So we want to do better. W
Love is our motivation
Well, let me tell you something. God is happy with every moment we spend with Him, He is not angry about the moments that we don’t. Guilt should not be leading us to spend more time with God, but our love for Him should do that. It’s a good thing to want to spend more time in His word or in prayer, but we have to check our motivation to do so. It should not be out of guilt or shame or fear, but out of knowing that God is our loving Father and He loves it when we seek Him and bet to know Him better.
Connect to His channel with love
When you want to listen to a certain radio station you have to find the right channel. When you are on the wrong frequency, you won’t hear a thing, you have to finetune to hear the result you were looking for. Well, the frequency God is using is love. You get connected to His channel through love. He loves you and He promise us in His Word that He will be with us, always.
He is there with you
Love, we are all familiar with it, we use it daily in our relationships with our family and friends. My husband and I enjoyed the past week. We were both free from work and had some great quality time. Watching a movie together on the couch, playing a game, shopping, enjoying a meal together or sometimes just being together is enough. But it isn’t always like that, there are also times when we are both busy and we rarely speak to each other. I finish a work task while he puts the kids to bed, he goes to a meeting while I prepare a meal etc. But we are aware of the love we have for each other.
God is only a prayer away
It is the same with God. When you are at the soccer field cheering for your kids, Jesus is next to you cheering along. When you are busy at work, He is there with you. God is never more than a prayer away. He loves it when you take quality time with Him, but He also loves it to be involved in all you do. Not every moment we spend with God will be wonderful and amazing and feels like we are in heaven. There are also times that it will be a quick prayer while we drive our car, a thought we share with Him while preparing the meal.
Remember God is happy with every moment we spend with Him, but guilt
or fear should not be leading to us spending more time with God. Our love for Him should do that.
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We, as resurrected born-again Christians (the church), are often referred to as the Bride of Christ. All who have obtained salvation by grace through faith are His Bride. And one day the Lord, the Bridegroom, will come for His people, His Bride, and make all things new. The wedding ceremony will take place and the official union will be accomplished. (Revelation 19:7-9 and 21:1-2). Hallelujah!
Lately I am realising how free we are in the choices we make and it amazes me. Sometimes when I drive my car, my mind takes a trip of its own and when I refocus I’m glad I didn’t miss my exit. But what if I did… I could decide to drive as far as I could, I could decide in an instant to change my plans and drive to the other side of the country, I could decide I would want to go bungee jumping and just do that.